Listening Support Skills – Back To The Basics

There is nothing like going back to basics and so I recently decided to go back to learning listening and support skills.  Skills that I as a Life Coach and other’s are likely to use on a regular basis. Perhaps you too can benefit from learning or revising these skills for yourself? They can and are used in our everyday lives, often without us even realising it. It’s a thought isn’t it? Even if it’s not something you considered before you might like it.

If you can listen to others well, I think there is no doubt that you will be much more effective person and find life alot more fulfilling. Some of the people I have admired most in my life had the ability to make me feel I was valued and understood, at times better than I understood myself.

I have found that somehow by helping others we benefit too.  It is a natural rule, it is by helping others get what they want that we get what we want. Or again, the Golden Rule, do to others that which you want done to you. This is The Law Of Reciprocity at work.

However even if you have no interest in learning or deepening your listening skills.   Just sitting with another person, providing a space for the both of you and allowing your self to become attuned to the true prescence of a person can be a transforming experience.

Although for me this has been something that has not happened overnight,and I continue to work on,it works eventually.  The first place to start is by listening to yourself.  By that I mean being aware of the thoughts and feelings that fly around all day and night.  I don’t mean either the constant mental paralysis of analysis, but rather just being aware of what is going on in the present moment. It is through this awareness that you can learn and grow and ultimately be free to be the person you truly are.

There are plenty of ways to do this.

And once we can truly see ourself as we are it is so much easier to listen and help others.

Peace and Love,

 

 

Gavin J Gowans